I'm Gonna Make You Love Me

When we registered our marriage at the New York City Marriage Bureau, little that we know about partnership,little that we know about each other needs and requirement and so very little that we know about each other family.

But yet, we take our vows to love each other every day and help each other to understand each other temperament.

This very song was and will always with us forever...enjoy

I'm Gonna Make You Love Me
The Supremes & The Temptations
(Ken Gamble/Jerry Ross/Jerry Williams)

I'm gonna do all the thing for you
A girl wants a man to do
Oh, baby (Oh, baby)
I'll sacrifice for you
I'll even do wrong for you
Oh, baby (Oh, baby)

Every minute, every hour
I'm gonna shower you
With love and affection
Look out, it's comin' in your direction
And I'm

I'm gonna make you love me
Oh, yes I will
Yes I will
I'm gonna make you love me
Oh, yes I will
Yes I will

Look here
My love is strong, you see
I know you'll never get tired of me
Oh, baby (Oh, baby)
And I'm gonna use every trick in the book
I'll try my best to get you hooked
Hey, baby (Hey, baby)

And every night, every day
I'm gonna say
I'm gonna get you, I'm gonna get you
Look out boy, 'cause I'm gonna get you

I'm gonna make you love me
Oh, yes I will
Yes I will
And I'm gonna make you love me
Oh, yes I will
You know I will

Every breathe I take
And each and every step I make
Brings me closer, baby
Closer to you

And with each beat of my heart
For every day we're apart
I'll hunger for every wasted hour

And I...
Every night
And every day
I'm gonna get you, I'm gonna get you
Look out, 'cause I'm gonna get you

I'm gonna make you love me
Oh, yes I will
Yes I will
I'm gonna make you love me
Oh, yes I will
Yes I will

I'm gonna make you love me
Oh, yes I will
Yes I will
I'm gonna make you love me
Oh, yes I will
Yes I will

Marriage or Mirage?

I'm reading The Commitment, Dan Savage's memoir about getting married to his boyfriend Terry. In chapter two, they each describe the reasons why they don't want to get married. Terry says he doesn't want to "act like straight people," an argument that perhaps does have some merit but is not something I feel wise enough to address.

The reason Dan doesn't want to get married is one I haven't thought of. He says making a big, public stink about your relationship is the best way to curse it. And he cites numerous examples starting with Bob Paris and Rod Jackson, the gay bodybuilders who got married in the early 90's, even hyphenated their names, and eventually got divorced. The list continues:

And who can forget Ellen DeGeneres and Anne Heche on Oprah, blathering on about being each other's "wives" after they'd been together for, what, four days?

Or Melissa Etheridge and Julie Cypher on Larry King talking up their eternal love (and David Crosby's fast-acting spunk) shortly before they split?

More recent casualties: gay actor B. D. Wong wrote a book about having a child with his partner, Richie Jackson, and then promptly broke up with Jackson after the book tour.

Gay comic Bob Smith closed his memoir, Openly Bob, with the uplifting story of how he finally met Mr. Right. His next book was about breaking up with Mr. Right.

Chip and Dale, the impossibly good-looking gay couple on one season of The Amazing Race, insisted that they be identified as a married couple. They broke up eleven seconds after they cashed their check.

Thanks for bumming me out, Dan. Though I'm only in chapter two, I'm fairly confident going through with commitment and are still together today. So hopefully there's nothing to that curse.