Passing by 1.1

we've been to kota kinabalu, sabah recently; fresh air, mountains and seas and different set of demographic compare to kuala lumpur.


and, i have discovered few funny things that i would like to share with you.

no pressing what!

take everything u want
leave nothing but sperm! hehehe

Apart from funny discovery, i must admit that i misses all the foods + low price


Sabah have offers me so many nice memory. So let pictures say the words...

greenery,lively

mother nature


place we stay, lovely right!

next publication will be dedicated to foods....

Marriage or Mirage?

I'm reading The Commitment, Dan Savage's memoir about getting married to his boyfriend Terry. In chapter two, they each describe the reasons why they don't want to get married. Terry says he doesn't want to "act like straight people," an argument that perhaps does have some merit but is not something I feel wise enough to address.

The reason Dan doesn't want to get married is one I haven't thought of. He says making a big, public stink about your relationship is the best way to curse it. And he cites numerous examples starting with Bob Paris and Rod Jackson, the gay bodybuilders who got married in the early 90's, even hyphenated their names, and eventually got divorced. The list continues:

And who can forget Ellen DeGeneres and Anne Heche on Oprah, blathering on about being each other's "wives" after they'd been together for, what, four days?

Or Melissa Etheridge and Julie Cypher on Larry King talking up their eternal love (and David Crosby's fast-acting spunk) shortly before they split?

More recent casualties: gay actor B. D. Wong wrote a book about having a child with his partner, Richie Jackson, and then promptly broke up with Jackson after the book tour.

Gay comic Bob Smith closed his memoir, Openly Bob, with the uplifting story of how he finally met Mr. Right. His next book was about breaking up with Mr. Right.

Chip and Dale, the impossibly good-looking gay couple on one season of The Amazing Race, insisted that they be identified as a married couple. They broke up eleven seconds after they cashed their check.

Thanks for bumming me out, Dan. Though I'm only in chapter two, I'm fairly confident going through with commitment and are still together today. So hopefully there's nothing to that curse.

See yo later babe! we are off for holiday!

We are off on holiday in Bali (for one week) and Malaysia till the end of August 2009.

Looking forwards for foods, beaches (not bitches), friends, families and the month of Ramadan and one conference at UNITEN.( sempat lagi tu! / steal some times)

More updates.........wait for it!

Principles of Wanting

Have you ever spot a person (or maybe it you) drooled over in front of Louis Vuitton Monogram or the latest Birkin Bag from Hermes! Well virtually it comes about every time in a person life. Human certainly have issue with what they want or desire and conflicting with the Principles of wanting or need.

The essay is a follow-up from previous essay on Happiness- can be accurately identified as whatever gets you ecstatic.

I Want! I want

1. Most people don't know what they want. (that's my sister, luv u sis)

Give some consideration and take your time to write THREE (3) reasons why do you need this or that! Damn you never border to do this!

Remember jotting down the reasons might help you looking up the priority in your life, except you have no worries over your bank balance.

2. Even if they know what they want (and that's doubtful) most people are afraid to ask for what they rightly deserve. (it’s me, hahaha)

Here! Here! Asked your partner opinion or second or third opinion. We are living in a society, fogodsake.

Remember, if one brain is good enuff, few more brain will be intelligent.

3. People want what they can never have.

Work your imagination to reality. Remember this is a modern world we are living, your dream that you wish might come through.

4. People have contradictory wants.

Too many wants can lead to catastrophic lifestyle. Set the target one after another. Compare with your ability or strength with the checklist.

If you find any weaknesses and threat, you should plan how to overcome it. Give an ample time line, so you may put your feet up in between.

5. Most people don't question why they want the things they want, they just know they want them. (weirdo!)

Are you divas? If yes, please waste off and have no worries over your bank balance. But, what if you are not or divas-wannabe, make sure you have very rich bf/hubby, or else refer to point No 4.

6. People want things for the wrong reasons. (most of us! you believe me)

Are you skew over short term vision mission or long term vision mission?
There are pros and cons for being either one of these. The tendency for short term vision mission is more towards negativity compare to long term vision mission.

Find out a short term vision mission which led to a long term vision mission instead. Example a few partner in bed can be short term vision and “chose the best one to be your bf” can be the long term vision mission.

7. There is a distinct difference from wanting something and needing something. (i need something ?)

Ask yourself?
Some people spend more effort trying to get what they want, rather than trying to get what they need. (Salesmen, i think!)

8. Some people once they get what they want they don't want it anymore. (sluthead!!)
9. Even when people get what they want, they always want more. (that's bitch!)

How do you look like in the past 3 years?

I am playing this fun tagging game with someone! The game asked" How do you look like in the past 3 years compare to now?"

There is only one rule, to publish any picture of yours (sincerely!) today and past 3 years back.

July'2007


May'2009

does anybody would likes to play along?

Where I blog from?

Well, to be sincere, i blogged from my office most of the time. Since I have few offices, i have to spend an equal amount of time in different offices every week and month.

1. The Faculty- Columbia University in NY

Office which i met my fellow students.Recurrently i spend 2 whole days in a week for lecture and project supervision.

The desktop meant for office usage and the notebook is strictly privy ie. Blogging, Skype and etc. i moves in quite recently to this new block, that's the reason why is look typically empty.

2. The Office - United Nations University

Not really promising! the office space is really small and pile of files and paperwork and books everywhere. I spend most of my days in one week here! although the size of the room irritate me sometime, but i have a lovely office mates from all over the world. Let see from the other angle...

my PA dare not to tap any single items on my desk. or i scream at her! i have exactly 2 weeks before the semester ended.

3. Home Sweet Home


I have to have a permission from Mr Handyman aka Steve to used home computer. Which is very seldom. i have Sony vaio if i want to go online.

anybdy likes to play along? ur most welcome.

4th of July

Happy 4th of July! its United States of American Independent Day and

How many years has the U.S. been independent as of 2009? 233. and

did you know that USA get their declaration of Independence from Kingdom of Great Britain in 1776. The forgotten facts! indeed. and yesterday NY had

An Elephants outdo humans in NYC bun-eating contest

They certainly have nothing to do!!!

Patrik, Age 1.5

Yesterday is our movie day out. We went to watch Patrik, Age 1.5 . The Swedish film is about Sven and Goran, a suburban married gay couple who adopt a child only to be surprised to find that their 1.5-year-old baby, Patrik, is in fact a 15-year-old homophobe.

You may follow this link to further read movie review and sneak preview from you tube. Nice story line,sad, happy,sad, touchy and overall i gives A. Let ask Mr Handyman, Steve darling gives B+, (ceh) reasons that his movie is far better compare to this. (duh! some people)

Movie reviews is beyond my expertise, i have to listened to some expert like my hubby. Credit goes to you, Steve darling! just remember that this Swedish film got to win Best Features Film,in Frameline29, the 29th San Francisco International LGBT Film Festival. No bias!

I don't mind adopting a good looking lads. Does anybody care to sign up!heheh